Wednesday, September 25, 2019

Dutt saab... A man's untold emotions.

The movie Sanju did so well on box office and it got good critically acclamation , but behind this journey of life with so much name,game, controversies , drug addiction, there was one man who acted like a constant pillar of strength. The legacy of his values and ethics and his progressive mindset deserve to be remembered .So late Dutt Saab (Sunil dutt) an popular name in film industry ,has his own journey. Born in a simple middle class family in punjab who liked to live life on his own terms. After  completing his school studies , he started working as an R.J simultaneously completing his higher education too, to support his family financially.One day at his workplace, one man suggested him for modelling because of  his well built personality and after auditioning, he also got offers for acting this slowly and gradually he made a name in bollywood, also fall in love with timeless beauty late nargisji and they had 3kids from marriage. So let's discuss some of his untold emotions,  when Sanju ,his son expressed his aim of becoming actor, dutt saab's meaningful advice was ,my son"all this name,fame and opportunities you getting to. become an actor , never take it for granted because other people struggles hard to achieve so always respect this". It was the worst time for Dutt saab when nargisji was diagnosed with cancer  at last stage and sanju's addiction for drugs.he was fighting many inner battles , but dealt with it bravely .when in an interview whenever duty saab was to be asked about sanju's drug addiction he used to reply honestly and humbly that yes Sanju was addicted but it was due to his shock of nargisji's death but Sanju had fighted and overcame from this addiction through his efforts. There was a time when Sanju was unable to recover from drug addiction , his best friend explained that , Uncle you are a brave personality but please understand  Sanju is different, he has his own Passion and mindset , please understand that".On that day itself Dutt saab took an bold step ,ask his son to share a drink which was worth discussing because that step was acceptance of reality and explaination , that although his son has his own aim and passion he accept it  because he love him . There was also a moment when underworld used to force Sanju to have compulsory presence in their parties which Sanju was not happy naturally by their invitation but was forced too, one day duty saab confronted him that why he attend such parties if he don't like them, he advised them to tell it honestly even they provide threats .so this was a step of teaching his son that better to live peacefully with strength to tell Truth. There are many things more ,I wish you could read this letter but what the world needs to know that you foughted every battle without any complains and tried to understand your kids situation with whole acceptance and lifetime advices.you are a real hero and your values of strength and honesty will be immortal. This is my little tribute to you.  We love and respect you dutt saab.

Wednesday, September 18, 2019

Privacy matters.

One incident of my friend  which made me realized to discuss the most ignorant topic, her commute in local train,her fellow Lady passenger literally peeping in her phone.  when she was chatting on her phone,She confronted that lady but do we Indians generally give importance to privacy majorly, no.. It's not an uncommon thing that family members check each other phone specially of their teenage child when left unattended. Like almost spying on their cellular activities. It's not uncommon in our home to enter any family members in our  room without knocking, the psychology is that what is the need of privacy among our family members but it is. Shahrukh Khan in an interview described that he always knock the door when his wife is changing clothes even after being married for 30years, also knocks his kids room before entering because he feels it's their personal space and it's their right. So this are values and ethics which should be respected and this is our real manners and education.Also there are several case happening when people publicised their personal chats and private pictures after break-up. The person doing this will never understand the mental trauma which his or her ex _ partner goes. Totally disheartening and shocking for a person to believe , that with the one you spent your Best intimate moments is defaming you to prooved his innocence. So the message of my article is to highlight the importance of personal space . when personal space is neglected, the respect for the person also diminishes. So if there are any issue evoking in mind it's better to discuss frankly rather than any impulsive action or judgements. So personal space is our right ,if we expect honesty from our dear ones it requires right mindset to accept.

Thursday, September 12, 2019

Breaking stereotypes.

As feminism is the latest discussion , stories about womens reaching the level of success after struggles etc , but my today story aims to discuss importance of being humanist than feminist.  This is a story about a manegi not only gained success but also help his partner to achieve her identity. H what attracted  nameme isto write this story is,  we always have mindset that higher education is always important to  have progressive thinking, but he prooved me wrong. Jagdish borana, a successful saloon owner in virar(mumbai).Born in a middle class rajasthani family at udaipur. Jagdish father a cook by profession in a well-known businessman in South mumbai. He and his whole family except his father used to stay in village located in interior of udaipur. Jagdish hardly passed ssc because of no interest in study. So after 8 std, he moved on to his Uncle house in virar, there he learned saloon course. So he set up an saloon start up near his residence , collecting some saving from his father and Uncle After completion of his course. Slowly and gradually, after certain struggles .His saloon started having a good name for his service and his good work ethics, thus he also brought his mother and sister to his residence of Uncle's house. So as Jagdish belong to a community where often , youngsters are engaged faster.so in his 19th year, he gone to saw a girl name hema who also belong to jagdish's nearby village. Hema a shy, beautiful in her sweet sixteenth. She completed just ssc .so with the family alliance and both's approval,they got engaged. During those times there were hardly any personal mobile, this they used to have conversations via letters and common telephone. Hema says letter were a reason to create an attachment and bond between 2people. Thus after 2years they married with great enthusiasm. Hema had to adjust herself in this new city's environment, initially a tough phase of her life. So after certain adjustments, Jagdish and his father decided to make hema skilled.  So hema was happy and her respect grew more for her husband. Thus after hema's approval, they enrolled her to a beautician classes nearby virar station, the location of her classes was 40minutes far from their residence .Initially  jagdish's mother wasn't much happy about her joining beautician course but Jagdish convinced his mother that homechores and her classes will be balanced . Jagdish decided to receive her everyday from her classes in evening, those 40 minutes of Walk together blossomed their romance well.😄  So after completion of 6 months course , Jagdish and his father gathered some saving and set up an ladies parlor that hema could operate.  The parlor business boomed slowly with her strong determination and her self confidence began rising. Presently she  says that she never dreamed of that one day she will have her own identity, she feel very lucky to have such an amazing partner who broke an stereotype.In this 12 years of saloon business, she also trained more than 50 girls under her supervision. They have 3 children ,2girls and one boy. Both the partner work hard to provide their children all facilities but also taught values and well manners. So this is actually real love, where main aim is mutual respect and mutual self identity Creation.I wish more people like Jagdish  who  break the patriarchal system  who believe in achieving and also help in achieving. We should also credit our man too even they deserve equal credit.

My name on jersey.

Cricket is almost like a religion to our country,  but I never liked cricket at all. When I used to see my friends playing gully cricket or ...