Saturday, March 30, 2019

My first time.

When we celebrate each and every occasion, why should i  not share my first time, afterall its my unforgettable experience. so before you guys gauge on some judgements, i want to share about my first period and some thoughts about it. So my first time was, when I was 12 year old, before this happening in my life, many friends had experienced and they used to discuss but I never understood it, so the day when i had period, there was a slight leakage of blood, by seeing it i got frightened and immediately asked my mother about this, she finally made me understood that you have periods and  she gave me a cloth to save from the further leakage, even told me that now you can't enter in kitchen, i was confused still.As soon my female neighbor learnt about this, they say don't touch us for 3 days, so this all are our jain traditions of sitting in corner, no touching anyone etc. So changing pads in school time was little tough. I even remembered wearing dark clothes to avoid blood stains anf using cloth for stopping leakage used to increase more irritation, bad smell. We girls always had fear about, that if blood stains appeared on our clothes which can create embarrassment, I can't  understand still that it's a first step of  entering from girlhood to womanhood, why we are treated as untouchable. So finally the message, i want to share is why periods are not discussed openly with childrens above 10 years. The main problem is, this will be a taboo until we woman not personally feel its a impure happening. It's our duty to create awareness even among in boys, because during our school time, i observed many boys used to make fun of sanitary napkin, which needs to be stopped and it will stop when our mothers and teachers will take the responsibility of educating about this evn to their sons or boy's students. 

Wednesday, March 20, 2019

Sex education.

In our current generation, when people are discussing almost every topic boldly, it's important to discuss sex education too. As sex is considered a taboo in our Indian society, where it's considered perfect only after marriage, so scientifically its wrong, sex has nothing to do with marriage. With increasing content on web and movies, youngster's often have many curiosity which they feel uncomfortable to ask their parents about what actually sex is.?? Either teenagers Google or discus with their friends, who are almost have same age, even they are unexperienced. Government of India has taken several measures educating teenagers regarding sex by having topic in textbook and educational advertisements etc. So  to all teenagers, the content  and  virtual act ,  we get in web is correct but you also must know that it's good to have active sex but appropriate age and correct precautions like condom should never be forgotten. Don't feel shy to purchase condomn as it can save you and your partner from unwanted pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases etc. Even parents duty is to discuss or to educate openly about puberty and sex, because if you won't guide them, who will. Only one advice to parents of youngster's that, don't feared your child to be sexually active but instead make them realize, that if their inner voice trust their partner cent percent,than ok. But if not, it could be threat to their personal life. 

Wednesday, March 6, 2019

21st century's men perceptions.

           So there is a lot of talk about gender equality and feminism. So to explore reality, even a man's perception should be listened. After all we are humans, who have sensitivity, emotions. So the very common thing, probably is the payment of bill, why only man mostly pays, so if both are earning, why not 50_50. When it comes to marriage perspective, why always only a man's income is analyzed. If both want to stay together in life, why can't they share responsibility of finance too equally. Due to some rapists and stalkers, its totally unfair to treat every man in suspicion. Even men don't have problem, if a lady take a first step to sexuality. Even if there is a sexual relationship among partners, even a man's desire of having or not should be prioritized, why man are not asked, they want to get physical or not. All they need a loving shoulder on whom they can share all our sorrows  and joy. They equally love surprises, emotional moments/ notes. Look man are ready to help their friend, no matter how tough it is on them but all we need is little
Motivation that, i am there in all your good and bad times. All they  need is little love and acceptance of their originality. 

Sunday, March 3, 2019

Not a bed of roses.

whatsappHii, my name is veena shah, age 34, married with two kids. Today I wanna share ny unapologetic story with you guys. Born in a conservative gujrati family with hardly any formal education and independence. My story was very common like every housewife of India. But slowly my life started changing, my romantic, caring  husband started ignoring me physically, mentally, sexually. My life became hell more when i got to know about his extra martial affair. I confronted him, instead he gave me two option. Either to accept his affair or divorce. I just felt my life ended, completely depressed i was, just thought how me and my kids would survived, if i divorced him  thus i chose to live in a unhappy marriage. But after 4 years my life got a different phase, i observed a  young handsome guy age 22,.   younger than me by 11 years . I got attracted with his good personality. Then after gathering his information from my friend. I requested him on f. B, he accepted too.   Gradually our chatting increased,we started having  frequent sex chats. Thus by his good response,I confessed my sexual interest in him.so one fine day we finally decided to have sex, when I was alone at my home,  and we had sex. I can never forget that moment. The way we made love was terrific. After so many years i was sexually active and  day by day we got more and more physically intimated, our sexual  continued till some months. It made me felt heaven on earth , so all was going great. But problem occurred even when he started ignoring my texts, call, because he started dating his long time friend. I literally became desperate for him.. Frankly speaking,i was so jealous but my heart gave them blessings any this ended. But one thing was that i may cheated my husband but i am not apologetic, because if  he can find love outside why can't i. My character may be questioned but being a good wife, mother, i am proud i didn't killed the woman in me. Although i m in a unhappy marriage. One message for all the girls and women, i couldn't remove myself from unhappy marriage, but if u can. Please do, because marriage will not always be bed of roses. 

Friday, March 1, 2019

Mental health.

               Mental health.                                As people are getting aware more and more nowadays about health, its also important to take care and maintain mental health. The problem is that still there are incidents people feeling shy or embarrassed about revealing their inner problems openly. So first of all, we need to know that, if we treat  other disease seriously and try our best to cure it, then why not about mental illness,afterall even brain is the part of body. Even people suffering should not feel embarrassed or should think as if  they are psycho. Much appreciation to Deepika padukone and Shaheen bhat, who opened their struggles of depression, their problems being not happy internally. Even Deepika padukone initiated campaigns and a helping hand for patients. So please if you have any difficulties physically, mentally take an help of family, friends or a professional help like counsellors. It will help you a better satisfied life. For families and friends one free suggestions is please help, motivate them, all they need is little love and your support. 

Acceptance.

A lot is debated about youth's perception but their real need is acceptance. Acceptance in terms of making own choices for career, partner, religious beliefs, sexuality. In short we need a change in stereotypes beliefs. Today's youth doesn't likes that chalta hai attitude, if we feel something is wrong, we will win it. It sadden us when we youth are expected only for party, alcohol, drugs, enjoyment etc. Look at ms. Dhoni, kohli, rajkumar rao, swapnil paatni, Sandeep Maheshwari etc who has broken all odds. We had reach to 4g but still we need alteration in our thinking. All we need is motivation from our family, and it can enhance our goals more better,  why there is always need for rebel. But slowly, time is changing, families are accepting their childrens originality, partner preferences, career choice, in short we need is a motivation to fight all odds and complete our goals. In fact we are more happy to take risks for our inner satisfaction. So that we feel responsible for our own decisions, intuition etc. 

My name on jersey.

Cricket is almost like a religion to our country,  but I never liked cricket at all. When I used to see my friends playing gully cricket or ...