Standardization in media ... highly needed.

As the world is progressing to a better place, where there are lots of advancement in science and technology, communication , business, innovation, information broadcast even in the remotest areas , but somewhere we have not been much aware about  the  topic is the  requirement of standardization in media,  there have been lots of issues raised by specially celebrities for the overexposure of media in  their life, where personal life and relationship are openly exposed without their proper permission. We respect that this overexposure is because of demand From viewers and readers But why this topic need to be thought in detail way and requirement of  implementation too , let's understand it through example, we all are aware about the speculations going around for the late actor Sushant singh rajput mysterious death case. Not to forget how the images of late ssr's death body was circulated on social media apps, we all understand about the curosity of knowing how and why such unfortunate incident happened but atleast we needed to show little sensitivity atleast, it's very sad to even imagine under what sorrowful conditions his family and close friends were going through , the height of media was , when his father was  repeatedly almost harrassed by media about information of his death case, this doesn't meant that every media person proved to be unsupported but little patience would be very much needed during that time. Next example is constantly trolling of people who are under scanner of investigation . All this have led to spread of negativity , toxicity which can be also depressive for those whose names are trolled much. So Yes the reason for writing this topic is,  Yes we all know, our country is a democratic country. we have freedom of speech where we are allowed to express our thoughts freely, but does that give us right to hurt anyone's sentiments without knowing the reality, hindering someone's privacy .There are many such incidents occurs when , the boundary of privacy has been crossed like circulation of someone's private  photos which are broadcasted without his or her permission , just to make a breaking news or trending it online. So if there are so much improvisation in academics syllabus and content,  why not add this topic  and training to deal  with such professionalism i.e standardization in media which would not only boost our aspirant media professionals about the ethics which shouldn't compromised for any topic,it will also set an example among whole world, that we value people's sentiments and also believe in being sensibile specially in sensitive topics  .

Yes it actually happened😍

So guys, I hope you all enjoy this story, sharing this story brought me to 10years down memory lane, those moment, memories made our life fully completed. Little adviced for specially our youngsters, I know nowadays people belief in marriage had decreased, I understand due to many reasons but I would love to say that if you find someone to whom you connect directly through your soul, don't loose that person. Yes there is a general perception towards finding a perfect Life partner is everyone's desire, but that's a myth, no one is going to be perfect totally.  Trust me guys , if you find someone who motivates you to be better in life, supports you in each and every ups and downs, someone who  respect you for your originality, than you are totally blessed. Sharing your life, emotions etc is a part of relationship, so guys enjoy this phase always ❤️.

Yes it actually happened 😍part 7( a promise of commitment.)

Yes finally our marriage rituals completed with fun, excitement, happiness, all close members arrived at our house 10 days before. Our house actually got a different Vibes, all our rituals of worshipping, haldi, mehedi, sangeet, ring ceremony completed well.  It was time for our D'day, like every girl I was excited, nervous, there were literally there were lots of goosebumps, also emotional for us, because before this new phase, I was going to leave my house, to settle in my husband's house. Yes there were nervousness too, because our countries were different, residing in a different community's family and most important leaving amma , as after neha's marriage,amma didn't felt much incomplete because I was there but now , imagining her living alone without us, was emotional moment for us. So our moment came for taking those 7vows, where there was 7promises of love and commitment, our both style marriage completed successfully. During my send off (Bidaai), that time, amma , neha, me and all our ladies gone very sentimental.   We all hugged each other, hugging amma was very emotional moment for us. I saw little tears in her eyes, she strongly controlled her emotions so that I don't cry much. The best moment was when mummy (my mother in law) hugged amma and made her relieved that now "she is my daughter too, you don't worry at all sudhaji". Listening this, a different smile evoked on Amma's face . That would be one of the most special memorable moment for us. We took everyones blessings. So finally I was now mrs.nisha Mehta.   I always respected the concept  of marriage, but sometimes being a mother of a daughter now I understand, how tough it's for a family of a girl, to send her permanently in a different house, where no matter how much good behaviour would be there, but things are definitely going to change and yes it's very natural, we all girls and their family go through this phase. Now I think when my daughter would be married, I  strongly desire, that even she gets a partner like her father, who supported me in each stages of life, also my mother and sister in law, who created efforts so familiar environment of ours house, where I don't miss my house much. So yes it actually happened guy's, two countries, one World merged totally with little adjustments and mutual understanding.❤️❤️.

Yes it actually happened 😍, part 7.

So finally, after lot's of if's and but's, our both mothers and Rohan's maternal aunt, decided to meet  and have  further discussions about marriage ceremonies. As we both belong to different communities, so definitely things were going to be little tougher, interesting and different. So , finally Rohan and his family shifted to their virar's house from canada for completion of all marriage ceremonies and rituals. Both mothers had desire to complete all our rituals in traditional styles. For amma, learning about gujrati rituals was little tough and confusing as they are totally opposite from our malayali rituals , But Rohan's mother and her maternal aunt told amma that "not to worry much , we will explain you every rituals in detail and we will do each and everything in our budget, sharing it in 50 _50". Amma was mentally relieved from stress of all marriage ceremonies and rituals, due to supportive nature of mummy and masi (Rohan's maternal aunt).  Finally our muhurat was decided and ceremony of both community styles was decided.  Budget was decided, gift's list was decided from both sides, shopping was started for both types wedding. Menu was discussed. Everything was like roaller coaster ride, it was fun , tiring yet very exciting 😃😃.

Yes,it actually happened 😍(finally yes❤️)

Amma's those words of explanation gave me an insight, I seriously should thank God for providing me mother who ditched typicalness, for making my life happy, she boldly accepted that even distance can't stop loving me so much. Marrying your child, especially a daughter and that to where her in-laws are in another country, isn't easy. All this feelings, I understand much better now because even I am a mother of a daughter and just imaginative of sending her at a distant place, make me very nervous.  After the next day, when Rohan asked his mother, that how much serious he is for me. He asked mummy to talk to amma and clear doubts if any. Our love story would be incomplete without discussing about Rohan's mother and her aunt's contribution. Let me introduce you guys to mummy (Rohan's mother) . Her name is Bhakti Mehta, a person who worked too hard for her family, Yes Life wasn't easy after early demise of Rohan's father, settling to Canada wasn't easy without proper formal education, but ours self made woman even did labour job too, for maintaining family and kid's education. Today  when I think about Rohan's gentle man Nature and maturity,  the credit totally goes to our Mummy . Seeing your mother working so hard, makes a guy more mature and a perceptions to respect women more. So after  lot's of discussion with my close friends and family , I finally decided to accept Rohan's proposal of marriage with a whole heart. So when we finally started chatting again, slowly and gradually everything took a balance, happiness bounded again, Yes this combo of North and South India was planned by destiny.❤️❤️❤️

Yes it actually happened,😍 part6

Yes I would honestly describe this phase as very unpleasant and boring too. My family noticed that Yes I am not happy internally too, but office work and hanging out with friends on weekends made me feel better. Being honest , my life was actually incomplete without talking to Rohan. Every close friend of mine knew that I am not happy fully. The best thing, I got to knew later is even that, we stopped texting to eachother. Inspite of all this, Rohan never failed to know about me via neha, Micky and our close mutual friends. So after some days, Rohan called amma, he told amma, "I know amma, how close nisha is to you and Neha, but shifting to India is next to impossible because all our life, we worked too hard, to live a well settled Life in Canada and starting everything again from zero in India would take many years to have a well settled life, I understand about stigma attached of n.r.i guys in india, but I promise that I would surely bring nisha to India every year, i also promise she would stay happy with me and my family." Listening all this amma replied, "okay dear, would try to understand nisha, you don't worry beta. Take care." So finally amma decided to lead and asked me frankly" beta, do u love rohan". I told " yes amma". Than she explained me lovingly, look Rohan is seriously decent guy , you guys would be happy with each other, "Yes shifting to Canada is difficult but not impossible, in this generation, finding someone so seriously for me is not easy." 

Yes it actually happened( it's time for a twist.) Part 5

No doubt my answer was yes for the proposal of rohan, but the question of shifting abroad leaving my single parent mother. Rohan initially told me to shift India with his family , as I was not ready to settle at Canada permanently. His family and wasn't aware of our relationship. His aim was to tell his mother, sister and elders as he completes his age of 25th . Thus time was flying faster than usual for us. As soon he completed 25th years of age, his mother announced to his maternal uncle and aunt ,to find a girl for marriage purpose from gujrati community. When Rohan knew about this, he confessed that he loves me and had proposed me for marriage. Mummy (Rohan's mother) was shocked when she heard and more shocked when she knew that I am South Indian. Usually our North Indians have certain mentality about South Indians regarding their looks, culture,  little conservative nature etc .So Rohan's mother denied ours relationship because of caste issue and I understand why she must have denied because like amma, even she lost Rohan's father at a very early age. She struggled and work harder to survive in Canada although her maternal side was very support,  but I am proud to say, that my mother in law is a self dependent person. Mumy too single handedly fulfilled responsibility of a mother and father, also balanced work and family very well. I actually respect that lot. So to convince his mother, Rohan called his maternal aunt who lives in mumbai, as he is very close to her, he told about our seriousness and convinced her to make mummy understand . When his aunt called mummy (Rohan's mother) to convince her, mummy agreed on one term, she told her maternal aunt to meet me and my family once. So after four days ,on Sunday his aunt came to meet us in our house. As our roots are from south, but residing in mumbai for such a longer time, we were gelled well with north Indians too. Actually his aunt was relieved that , what she mentally thought about us, we weren't that typical South Indian people, she liked all of us well. But the best thing about his aunt we loved was her honest nature, because when amma told his aunt that, "may be Rohan will try to settle in India." Aunt directly told truth that ,"sorry my dear but Rohan won't ever shift to India, because he and his family struggled lot to live a well settled life in India ". Me and amma was shocked for some time, I was very sad that time. The next day, I had a very bad call with Rohan, as I thought he cheated me by telling that he would shift to India. Yes Rohan listened everything patiently, he said yes I told you, I would shift to India, but it's very tough to leave such a job security and well settled life in Canada. I directly told him on phone, that I am not interested in carrying our relation ahead,as I don't want to shift Canada leaving my family. Rohan replied ,"I understand your emotions nisha, I just wanna say is no decision will be forced upon on you, if you are happy breaking up with me, okay but I seriously loved you very much and would respect your emotions are decision , it would break my feelings too, but if you are happy, it would be fine for me, Good luck for everything, cyaa."

Yes it actually happened, a meeting for a new beginning part 4.😍

So finally day came, when Rohan came to meet me and my family from canada to India. It was a lovely feeling when someone comes to meet you specially from such a long distance. It was like my life was about to change from seeing him onscreen to live . Yes that took lots of patience for both of us.  As I was always a person, who never kept much attention on looks but that day, I asked neha chechi ," Am I  looking presentable or not?". She was like , "ohhhhh,  somebody is taking care of her looks more now".😅 My response was a blushing smile 😂😂. So finally when the bell rang, my heart began to beat more faster. Yes finally we met, there were typical love songs were running in my mind 😂😂. The excitement of meeting was showing straightly in my eyes and smile. As soon as, entering at our house, he touched feet of amma. Looking at that act, we were really touched by his manners of respecting elders. He said Hello to me and neha. Neha was literally in mode of teasing us by giving me some signs of eyes 😂😂😂😂.  Thus we made him feel comfortable on sofa, me and sat Neha on opposite chairs. So the initial talks was how's everyone in family, work life etc,  As neha being his bestie, knew how much Rohan loves South Indian food. After some talks, Rohan proposed me in front of amma and neha. That moment was the loveliest ❤️❤️.

Yes it actually happened 😍 (introduction of amma) part 4

So when finally my photo was sent by neha,I was totally mad on her but now what's done is done. Now this online friendship ,ours chatting became a part of life, Yes we were actually attached to each other, communication became very essential for us. So that day finally after 2years of chatting,  Rohan finally asked me, if I also actually feel the same thing, which he felt. 😍😍 Yes definitely loved him lot But also it's true that ,Yes I was hesitant, little feared, it was all because of some basic mentality, about n.r.i . that may be he won't be interested in any kind of Serious relationship.  This is little strange in our indian society to share about a guy's proposal but yes as we both sisters were closed with my mother, let me introduce you guys with my mother. Her name is sudha balan, a person without whom our life wouldn't be such happening. Initially in our childhood days, my mom (amma) was little strict, as compared to our dad, late.(Balakrishnan Balan) But after  early death of ours father due to health problems, amma  single handedly  fulfilled responsibility and love of both mother and father. Amma came from a well settled family and even at my father's house,we led an comfortable life . Acchan (my father) wish was too see his family members to lead a comfortable  life, but due to sudden illness of my late father,  responsibility of running our household, my and neha's education , etc came on Amma's shoulders. We are proud to say that Yes amma raised us hardworking ly as a teacher . Our relatives offered us financial help but we refused and it was best decision of our life. Even being born in a very orthodox family, we are proud amma gave us all freedom to explore many things but yes there were certain limits and today being a parent, I understand . So we were chatting regularly, amma knew well. Finally I told her about proposal of Rohan, amma asked "are you guys serious for each other. My reply was," Yes, But problem is I don't want to go abroad, leaving u amma". This was an emotional moment for us, I holded her hands.❤️ Her eyes became little teary because, no mother wants to send her daughter,so far aspecially at a place where we never visited, so our decisions were going on and off. 

Yes it actually happened. 😍part 3

Now the time comes as tit for tat, neha shared my email id to rohan without my permission. The next fine day , I saw an new email , when I checked that I'd it was of Rohan's. I got mixed feelings , even today it reminds me those goosebumps, and the process of chatting started. The initial chatting includes knowing about each other college life, studies, friends , career goals etc. To be Frank, we didn't opened up every topic with each other, the beauty of our friendship was getting to know each other slowly and steadily. There was a line of control in our chatting initially. Gradually we continued chatting, I actually realised , I am getting attached to Rohan and even he realised because of residing in different countries. I was in india and he was in Canada so we maintained patience for each other messages. This whole chatting story was well known both by my sister and my mother (amma) too. I am actually blessed to have a family which understood my emotions, But also guiding me time to time when needed.  They all noticed slight changes in me , which was coming naturally . The best thing about our growing friendship of me and Rohan was he is a very good listener, who patiently listens first and level of maturity to understand things.  So yes we were becoming good friends , one day he asked me to send my photo. I initially denied it, due to some hesitance as I felt , he have feelings for me. But I never interested in long distance relationship.  I still appreciate that when I denied sending my photo, he didn't forced and told me , "it's okay nisha, send me whenever you feel like, no hurry".I was actually impressed internally for genuineness of Rohan. So everything was going smooth our studies were over, he found an job too as an solar engineer, after some months, even I found job in an accountancy firm. Our chatting was on-going well, even neha chechi and Rohan used to chat , so Rohan asked to send my photo on his I'd ,if I don't have problem. Neha directly sent my photo without my permission, when she confessed, I freaked out. Ohh god, it sounds so funny right now. 😂😂😂 Neha di actually became our love guru , the funniest part was neha sent my not so Good looking photo😂😂, but Stop Rohan liked it and he saved it in his desktop. 

Yes It actually happened . part (2)

So by reading this introduction part, its very easy to guess , It's a love story obviously and funnily our bollywood crazy friends describe it as a similar to two states 😅😅, but it's not only about 2 states combo but about 2countries, one love ❤️.  Being second child to my parents,Yes I was More naughty , humorous, extrovert and ofcourse tomboyish person as compared to my elder sister Neha balan , let me share something about my elder sister Neha, I call her chechi, which means elder sister in Malayalam. She is also our setting person who also had  lots of contribution in setting me and Rohan 😅😂. She is also happily married with her husband in mumbai. I am blessed to have a sister like her who is not mere a sibling but an close friend and my partner in crime 😂😂. She is kareena kapoor of our house due to her good looks😅.  So let's go to those memories where something special is about to happen.  That was one fine morning when neha chechi was busy in her presentation for college assignments , for some work she rushed to collect some documents at her friend's place . Laptop was just left as it is, I was reading at same sofa , what I observed was a sudden pop up of an email. It was an email of Rohan on her I'd.  Let me mention, neha and Rohan are school time bestfriends.  Due  to early death of his father too, he and his family shifted to Canada with some support from Rohan's maternal uncle and aunt  for college studies and career.  As Rohan was still very close to his friends,he used to be in regular touch through email chats.    An sudden prank came in my mind, to chat with Rohan on neha's behalf on her I'd. So I started talking silly , poor Rohan was awestruck that what suddenly happened to Neha😂😂 , but he didn't told anything on that time. In some minutes, finally Neha came home and noticed me , chatting with her I'd. She became totally mad on me. She was like why u chatted silly on my behalf, so when she apologized Rohan , he actually liked my silly prank . Neha was little embarassed but instead Rohan told I really like Nisha's humorous nature, can i get her id . I was shocked because i didn't had any other intention . To be frank Yes i  was hesitant to start conversations with him. My only thoughts stressed me is , what this guy will think about me .

Yes It actually happened.😍 , Part (1)

Today while seeing , old photo album which was loaded with memories of a phase in life which will be always memorable and yes y which will never fails to bring smile on my face. Yes this are photos of 10 years back where Life was so different , it included fun, friends, college life, exams etc ,but never expected , that there is something unexpected to come. I always thanks myself internally  for maintaining this albums which not only contains photographs but memories.  So guys I am very happy to introduce you people about that unexpected journey which actually happened.  Let me introduce myself , my name is Nisha balan , an N .r.i , an accountant by profession,  a mother of a lovely four year old daughter siya❤️,  happily settled in Canada,  and not to forget the person without whom this journey would be incomplete totally. His name is Rohan Mehta my husband❤️, an engineer by profession. Yes our surnames sounds lot opposite and It's true that we hail from inter caste community, a combination of north and south 😅.