By my choice, not by pressure.

Hey guys, this is the story of a woman who had chosen an different path, in the those times, which other women wouldn't had thought of. From being a single mother before wedlock or raising a child boldly to marrying at the age of 60. Her story admired me lot. So let's talk about her. Her name is Neena gupta an actress, an director, theatre artist but behind this all glamorous silver screen, she fought many taboos and battles by herself. Born in 1954,in a simple middle class family , after her graduation joined national school of drama in Delhi. After certain auditions and certain plays in theaters, she got opportunity to work in movie, even in those time, she didn't typical heroine role. But who knows that her personal life will affect her proffesional life too.  She was engaged with pandit jasraj son and before few days, he broke engagement without providing any reason, as a woman even i could feel her pain,the pain she would have gone through, because it's not easy to move on specially for a woman to move on speedily, because it breaks your heart when someone suddenly leaves you, after giving a hope for a better life. As she was going from this trauma, life selected an different path for her. Once in a free time, when she was watching a cricket match on T. V, she saw the captain of the team almost like crying after losing the match. That captain was Sir. Vivian Richards (ace cricketer) of his times, at that time she felt that, wow this man is so real and it attracted her lot. Who knew that this attraction has already a story written by God. So while shooting in Jaipur, she saw Vivian and his West Indian team in same hotel, she and her colleagues dining. They just exchange an glance. After some days they even boarded to same flight, so destiny diehardly trying to make it happen, an old woman exchanged her seat with Vivian because she was with little kid, and then Vivian and neena got seat nearby and thus the communication began and slowly after that boarding they came in contact, and both attracted towards each other ended up having an affair. But problem happened when neena became pregnant which was unplanned, her whole family and close friends were shocked. All adviced her to abort because our society doesn't accept child without marriage. But neena decided to give birth, Vivian was okay with her decision but he couldn't marry her, as he was already married with a carribian woman. In his culture, it's totally cool. She got many hatred messages from our society as she had child before marriage which is probably considered as impure decision. According to a woman psychology, a woman get connected to the baby in her womb, not only physically but emotionally too. Aborting and not aborting child have their own pros and cons . Neena says that sometimes she have regrets of taking these tough decisions because she says, this decision affected her daughter childhood vastly, she used to often get bully by her school friends due to unusual body, looks, skin tone and not getting a father's love. Although she raised her so well and today she is successful fashion designer but raising her single handly was not very simple. As she have to fulfill all responsibilities  but she says that her father supported during that time and she feels lucky. He used to take care of masaba when she used to be on shoot. All this steps were unusual and created an strong bitchy image by media .but best thing she is proud of her decisions too. She found love again before some years with Vivek Mehra. Even Vivian meets sometimes masaba thus after having so difficulties too, she prooved a woman once decided can go to any extent specially for her child and also created her way on her feet. She always felt that the difficulties she faced, masaba should never go through. Masaba says she is proud of her mother and her decisions, because despite several odd, she gave her life and made her strong, independent woman . 

When duty came first.

While watching bajirao mastani movie on TV, suddenly an thought evoke me, that world remembers the great love story of bajirao mastaani, but why kashibai sacrifice and her emotions doesn't caught anyone's attention. So let's discuss about this brave lady. Born in a very wealthy and loving family, Rao and Kashi had child marriage. So in such tender age they both didn't knew the exact values of marriage, but slowly and gradually , their bond became stronger by growing up together, playing, quarreling etc. Even Rao's family too treated her well with respect. Radhabai (Rao's mother) taught her every daughter in law's responsibility and wife's duties. Even Rao got trained well and became one of the most successful head minister of peshwa. All was going well, but soon kashi and whole rao family got shocked, when he announced that he married Mastani. Mastani a Muslim princess of Bundelkhand. It felt that some one stabbed kashi's heart . She never believed that her husband can have other woman in his life, even kashi ego was hurted and a woman never forgives the one, who breaks her ego. When Rao apologized Kashi, she replied " I demanded my life from you but instead you had snatched my self confidence and when Rao asked his punishment, she replied ' never enter in my room'. That's was a tough decision for a young woman . Question arosed in my mind that if Kashi would had been involved with other man, than would Rao forgived her??  But after so much too, she always taught her son to respect his father. The most impressive quality of her was when Bajirao and mastaani died, she not only adopted her son Shamsher bahadur, but also completed all administrative duties of peshwa. Her utmost principle was that emotions never come in way of duty.

Keeping him alive.

Hello guys, my name is shivangi joshi, today i am very excited to share my life story with you . I am a ordinary girl who had some unpredictable moments  in life. I come from a  decent working middle class background . In childhood i grew up ,with my maternal grand parents, due to financial difficulties of my parents , but my grandpa and grandmum were extreme caring and loving  So like every teenager my life had a routine, school, tuition etc. But after my hsc, i came back to stay with my parents. I never knew my life would change, i took admission in management studies in far away college from my home, everything was going normal, but one day i got an whatsapp message , i knew the guy name krishna sharma, a successful businessesman and very dear friend of my father. So he msgd me hii and i replied too, he was unaware of my usage  of this phone due to certain problems in my personal phone. So one day wen i told krishna dat, i am using this phone, he apologized , but i started gaining attraction towards him. He was 4 years elder than me, not much educated, humble and successful businessesman. So gradually our chatting increased, even he had developed feelings for me. So finally he proposed me, i was shocked but yes i wanted this moment to happen  So we started dating , meeting frequently. But one day, my father saw anf and that day there were lots of scolding towards me. As every parents they were worried  that i don't take a wrong step. But after so much drama, we continued dating. We were different totally in many things but still our bond was strong. So like this, my college vacation started and for s new startup , he gone outstation. My close friend riya  insisted that, i should meet him before his going but i couldn't due to restrictions of my family. Who knew, i won't be able to see him ever, after some days i got informed from his father, that he met an car accident and died, i was shocked and my heart was not accepting this fatal news, that day i realized  how it feels, when your most loveable person will be never even seen again. My family supported me in ti tough situation, but this news got many health problems like depression ,migration etc. So when riya knew, she hugged me and said,  " look dear, i can understand your pain but you know u can still keep him alive by fulfilling his dream, he always wanted you to be successfully educated working girl, so complete his dream, its your duty now, to make his soul rest in peace". Riya was my life saver, because she gave me the reason of life. So slowly, i started attending college and focused on my academics with that only one goal. During all this, i used to badly miss radhe and see his photo and used to cry. So i completed my graduation in management in human resource with good grades during all this my family and riya were very supportive. So after my convocation, i found a good job with decent salary package  that day i realized i completed his dream, i thought if he would be alive, he would have been most happy with my success in academics and career. Slowly and gradually my working life impreoved with some ups and downs. Suddenly after some days, while sitting alone at my house, that krishna used to help some charitable trust by donating money, books  etc to poor kids. So next day after enquiry of that N. G. O. I visited there and found the serious need of donation there. As many kids actually wanted to be something in life and i felt so blessed that my all needs were smoothly were completed by my parents  So after some visits, i asked my office colleagues and some friends for help and they agreed to donate little amount of their income . So after one year due to steady donations, this N. G. O, gave a good changes in these needy kids life and we all are happy.