My name on jersey.

Cricket is almost like a religion to our country,  but I never liked cricket at all. When I used to see my friends playing gully cricket or my brother and father going crazy for watching match first, or informing scores to each other on phone. In our life some steps just change our perception towards certain things.  It happened in my life too, it was when my husband asked me that do you wanna take part in our jain society's women cricket,  in a very short span of seconds ,I said yes why not let's try. He replied wonderful  and he just registered my name shortly.  Than the time of just  imagination faded and  reality of having zero knowledge about cricket was a big stress.  Than I  discussed with this with my inlaws and my husband il(Akash) that , I had said yes for cricket competition in excitement  but I don't know the meaning of even over,  they were stressed too that how I will play and learn in couple of days,  during that time my partner actually my best support system,  motivated me , I still remembered those special words .he told,"so what you don't know anything about cricket,  try to learn about it via internet, than start practice and I will help you too". Those words were just tonic to my worries,🥰 and seeing my interest even my mum in law was happy and motivated me to learn and practice.  Than the warm up practice was decided and being confident outside, totally nervous inside that was my state of mind. It was totally different feeling wearing tracks and sports Tshirt,  having bat in one hand 👕,rushing to ground with full excitement and happiness of learning a different skill.  Some flashback memories of life are so unique that it can't be described in few words.  So from discussion on whatsapp groups to meeting all players , so that time while practicing,  I realized the pressure seeing others play so well. The interest of playing cricket started developing like students start focusing on studies under the pressure of getting good marks or getting  atleast pass.so slowly and steadily our practice started getting more serious and sometimes even twice a day. We all loved our team's passion and clear cut to win. Yes there were some days of little mismatched of thoughts between players or junior players feeling little low, but all started vanish when every player of team wanted to learn and teach each other about game. Friendship  gossiping,  discussions , balancing studies, home chores,  babies etc we all gone through was mesmerizing beautiful.  I remembered close to our competition, days came when me and my husband were going on honeymoon and in excitement of visiting kashmir,  I still miss those cricket practice.  Even in kashmir,  when I saw those little kids playing cricket,  I was like,  akash can we stop our car and play some cricket too, he was obviously just smiling at my craziness 😂😂😂. So right from coming home , next day practice started and yes before going to kashmir due to much practice with my husband, brother in law, my teammates. My game improved and our coach sir replied,  it was so special for me. When your teacher appreciates you for your hardwork and improvement.  I felt so happy.i really appreciate my teammates,  coach sir (hitesh uncle) and not to forget our sponsor (manisha aunty) .Also the precious moment of seeing my name on the jersey,  yes I felt proud of myself and all supporters  of mine.    Everything was going smooth,  until the twist came, when our captain(bhavna) couldn't joined our game due to her father in law's death and the captainship was passed to our new captain moksha. Everything was balanced very well by her too. Finally the day came we played thrice and won all three game, I remembered we were dancing with happiness,  playing garba on ground, even the audience were enjoying seeing us winning.  So all's good that ends well. I realized that even our team wouldn't had won match, but the idea of taking a step to learn is important. After all learning will always be worth it. Life really becomes easy when you have people who motivates you to pursue and participate. 

Why not????

Sorry guys being so late with any topic. Honestly, the recent covid situation had also impacted my interest to write or learn something new . Yes, I agree there has been lot of negativity around all over the world. Watching News on T.V, Social Media has become very depressive these days, but simultaneously we should also not forget to  appreciate the hardwork of the selfless services rendered by our real life "Heroes" who work day and night for the welfare of the people. 

So here I have come up with an idea of writing about one of my Relative, who has inspired me thoroughly with his hardwork, dedication and lot of struggles.  His name is Sir (Dr.) Shantilalji M Jain whose Clinic is in Hariyali Village, Vikhroli (East) . His work schedule will seriously shock you with so long working hours and the rare thing is treating people with the lowest fees and  sometimes even for the free to the patients who can't afford even 20 rupees. Frankly speaking working nowadays with such conditions is not practically possible , as we all have to deal with our lifestyle expenses . In all his journey of working now till being 70 plus age , so equal credit goes to his team and staff of compounders and helpers who too share their contribution in this noble service. So we all know how we are being charged by the Medical Professionals (A big fat amount), which puts a big hole specially to the middle class, the poor and the needy people. But yes He still makes me believe that  people like.Dr. Jain who wants to work hard to do something good for the Mankind. A big salute to him for working with so much dedication even after suffering from so many struggles in every phase of life. And ofcourse, his journey would have been really incomplete without the support of his better half (Mrs .Manjula Shantilalji Jain) and also one of  his biggest support from his elder brother Roopchandji M Jain. Obviously working for so many years provides lots of life experiences.

 His advice to the Youth and everyone is to follow one's passion and to learn each and everything from basics.  

So sincere salute to all our unsung heroes whose hardwork rarely get highlighted or appreciated. It was a tiny attempt from my side to appreciate the positivity and genuineness by giving Dr Jain's example.  

Yes even today there are people who want to bring some good change in others life without any unrealistic expectations.  This article would not have been possible without inputs from Dr Jain's granddaughter, Isha Jain and his youngest daughter, Sarika Jain.                        Article by  Richa.pravin.punmiya.

Standardization in media ... highly needed.

As the world is progressing to a better place, where there are lots of advancement in science and technology, communication , business, innovation, information broadcast even in the remotest areas , but somewhere we have not been much aware about  the  topic is the  requirement of standardization in media,  there have been lots of issues raised by specially celebrities for the overexposure of media in  their life, where personal life and relationship are openly exposed without their proper permission. We respect that this overexposure is because of demand From viewers and readers But why this topic need to be thought in detail way and requirement of  implementation too , let's understand it through example, we all are aware about the speculations going around for the late actor Sushant singh rajput mysterious death case. Not to forget how the images of late ssr's death body was circulated on social media apps, we all understand about the curosity of knowing how and why such unfortunate incident happened but atleast we needed to show little sensitivity atleast, it's very sad to even imagine under what sorrowful conditions his family and close friends were going through , the height of media was , when his father was  repeatedly almost harrassed by media about information of his death case, this doesn't meant that every media person proved to be unsupported but little patience would be very much needed during that time. Next example is constantly trolling of people who are under scanner of investigation . All this have led to spread of negativity , toxicity which can be also depressive for those whose names are trolled much. So Yes the reason for writing this topic is,  Yes we all know, our country is a democratic country. we have freedom of speech where we are allowed to express our thoughts freely, but does that give us right to hurt anyone's sentiments without knowing the reality, hindering someone's privacy .There are many such incidents occurs when , the boundary of privacy has been crossed like circulation of someone's private  photos which are broadcasted without his or her permission , just to make a breaking news or trending it online. So if there are so much improvisation in academics syllabus and content,  why not add this topic  and training to deal  with such professionalism i.e standardization in media which would not only boost our aspirant media professionals about the ethics which shouldn't compromised for any topic,it will also set an example among whole world, that we value people's sentiments and also believe in being sensibile specially in sensitive topics  .

Yes it actually happened😍

So guys, I hope you all enjoy this story, sharing this story brought me to 10years down memory lane, those moment, memories made our life fully completed. Little adviced for specially our youngsters, I know nowadays people belief in marriage had decreased, I understand due to many reasons but I would love to say that if you find someone to whom you connect directly through your soul, don't loose that person. Yes there is a general perception towards finding a perfect Life partner is everyone's desire, but that's a myth, no one is going to be perfect totally.  Trust me guys , if you find someone who motivates you to be better in life, supports you in each and every ups and downs, someone who  respect you for your originality, than you are totally blessed. Sharing your life, emotions etc is a part of relationship, so guys enjoy this phase always ❤️.

Yes it actually happened 😍part 7( a promise of commitment.)

Yes finally our marriage rituals completed with fun, excitement, happiness, all close members arrived at our house 10 days before. Our house actually got a different Vibes, all our rituals of worshipping, haldi, mehedi, sangeet, ring ceremony completed well.  It was time for our D'day, like every girl I was excited, nervous, there were literally there were lots of goosebumps, also emotional for us, because before this new phase, I was going to leave my house, to settle in my husband's house. Yes there were nervousness too, because our countries were different, residing in a different community's family and most important leaving amma , as after neha's marriage,amma didn't felt much incomplete because I was there but now , imagining her living alone without us, was emotional moment for us. So our moment came for taking those 7vows, where there was 7promises of love and commitment, our both style marriage completed successfully. During my send off (Bidaai), that time, amma , neha, me and all our ladies gone very sentimental.   We all hugged each other, hugging amma was very emotional moment for us. I saw little tears in her eyes, she strongly controlled her emotions so that I don't cry much. The best moment was when mummy (my mother in law) hugged amma and made her relieved that now "she is my daughter too, you don't worry at all sudhaji". Listening this, a different smile evoked on Amma's face . That would be one of the most special memorable moment for us. We took everyones blessings. So finally I was now mrs.nisha Mehta.   I always respected the concept  of marriage, but sometimes being a mother of a daughter now I understand, how tough it's for a family of a girl, to send her permanently in a different house, where no matter how much good behaviour would be there, but things are definitely going to change and yes it's very natural, we all girls and their family go through this phase. Now I think when my daughter would be married, I  strongly desire, that even she gets a partner like her father, who supported me in each stages of life, also my mother and sister in law, who created efforts so familiar environment of ours house, where I don't miss my house much. So yes it actually happened guy's, two countries, one World merged totally with little adjustments and mutual understanding.❤️❤️.

Yes it actually happened 😍, part 7.

So finally, after lot's of if's and but's, our both mothers and Rohan's maternal aunt, decided to meet  and have  further discussions about marriage ceremonies. As we both belong to different communities, so definitely things were going to be little tougher, interesting and different. So , finally Rohan and his family shifted to their virar's house from canada for completion of all marriage ceremonies and rituals. Both mothers had desire to complete all our rituals in traditional styles. For amma, learning about gujrati rituals was little tough and confusing as they are totally opposite from our malayali rituals , But Rohan's mother and her maternal aunt told amma that "not to worry much , we will explain you every rituals in detail and we will do each and everything in our budget, sharing it in 50 _50". Amma was mentally relieved from stress of all marriage ceremonies and rituals, due to supportive nature of mummy and masi (Rohan's maternal aunt).  Finally our muhurat was decided and ceremony of both community styles was decided.  Budget was decided, gift's list was decided from both sides, shopping was started for both types wedding. Menu was discussed. Everything was like roaller coaster ride, it was fun , tiring yet very exciting 😃😃.

Yes,it actually happened 😍(finally yes❤️)

Amma's those words of explanation gave me an insight, I seriously should thank God for providing me mother who ditched typicalness, for making my life happy, she boldly accepted that even distance can't stop loving me so much. Marrying your child, especially a daughter and that to where her in-laws are in another country, isn't easy. All this feelings, I understand much better now because even I am a mother of a daughter and just imaginative of sending her at a distant place, make me very nervous.  After the next day, when Rohan asked his mother, that how much serious he is for me. He asked mummy to talk to amma and clear doubts if any. Our love story would be incomplete without discussing about Rohan's mother and her aunt's contribution. Let me introduce you guys to mummy (Rohan's mother) . Her name is Bhakti Mehta, a person who worked too hard for her family, Yes Life wasn't easy after early demise of Rohan's father, settling to Canada wasn't easy without proper formal education, but ours self made woman even did labour job too, for maintaining family and kid's education. Today  when I think about Rohan's gentle man Nature and maturity,  the credit totally goes to our Mummy . Seeing your mother working so hard, makes a guy more mature and a perceptions to respect women more. So after  lot's of discussion with my close friends and family , I finally decided to accept Rohan's proposal of marriage with a whole heart. So when we finally started chatting again, slowly and gradually everything took a balance, happiness bounded again, Yes this combo of North and South India was planned by destiny.❤️❤️❤️