Rajasthan community's pride.

As Rajasthan is not famous mere for travel and tourism, but also famous for its love for our traditions and passion for business. Let's discuss about the person who changed the scenario of our community's patriarchal mindset. Her name is Smt.Geeta Bharat Jain, famous and successful for defeating stronger opponents in Mira _bhayander area. Her development work in her field of politics is well-known by citizens but very few know about her initial days. Born in a middle class family in Mumbai. she was eldest among 3 siblings. Her father was a retailer of clothes in jogeshwari and mother a homemaker. Since childhood, geetaji had  a dream of  successful career and wanted to become self independent. After her secondary education, she used to teach underprivileged kids for free during her free time at slum area near her home. To support her education, she took various part time job, because was so determined about her career .  She successfully completed medical laboratory technology course and also started working in this field. So after her marriage with Shri.Bharat Jain, a real estate developer (son of a successful ex politician) , Helping father in law in election work, even she developed interest in politics, so with guidance and motivation of her husband and in-laws family, she began her career in politics, with the agenda of help and development. The intention to write this article on geetaji is , that if geetaji's family can support her ,to achieve her goal why can't we motivate our daughters and daughter in laws. After all it's time to bring an change in our community's rules and restrictions. If we can wear modern clothes, adapt modern technology, why not modern mindset?  Strength, hardwork and right support from our family can change lives.

Fun for some , haunting memories for victims.

Hii guys, my name is Shweta Singh, journalism student. Born and brought up in this fearless Mumbai city.Thus being a student of media, i know the power of media well. In my study ,we are taught to report,explore,cover , highlight facts and stories of masses. But today I want to share my personal story, which I never shared with almost anyone. My father is a small time retail of steel utensils in vasai .As the festival season start ,its obvious to help me n my brother to help in his business. So it was a time of Diwali season ,time was 10.30 pm .Due to festival and traffic , the availability of auto became low. I was about to go home from shop . The regular distance is of half hour from my shop to home. So after waiting for 10 minutes, a bus came on the way where i was waiting , frankly speaking the incident of Delhi gang rape case came in my mind which happened in a bus, Thus to avoid delay. I took a bus,  I  noticed probably 8 to 10 people, Among those people, there were only 2 ladies. I was relieved atleast it had 2 ladies. So i sat on the front row near a lady. So after 15 minutes of ride, a gang of 5 boys entered , they took a backseat . They were chit chatting loudly , when suddenly a guy from their group, made an silent hint to his group. Thus they all suddenly started staring me and commenting on my dress and on my body . They thrown very bad remarks on me. I was scared , thus observing my fear, the lady who sat near me told me " don't worry dear, i will exit from the bus when your destination come, Don't say anything to these notorious group . I can't believe that, since childhood I was always a outspoken girl, I never took anything for granted.  How i  was scared? I was even shocked that even that bus conductor didn't stopped that group of boys. Similar incident happened, after some months , never to underestimate that such incident happens only late night, it was 5 pm in evening , when I was going for shopping.  God knows that time, why there were much public during that time. So while I was walking , group of 6 boys were  walking in my opposite direction , among those 6 boys ,one was heavily drunk, I was little tense seeing them, but I ignored them.suddenly that drunk guy commented on me , " Are item rukh , kya dikhti hai kadak". After hearing that , I just scolded that guy and he apologized that ," I am sorry , i am drunk" . I replied, "you talk like this to your sister bro".   The another guy told we are sorry and they silently exited.  During that time , I really felt brave.  The message , I want to share is that yes today I regret , that why didn't I opposed those guys who commented on me badly . I want to tell that yes eve teasing is an emotional trauma which almost every girl faces specially on public places like while commuting in train, railway platforms ,bridges , even while walking alone. The eve teasers don't even realized that their some moments of fun moments can make feel scared or depressed  to the victims. The longer you will suffer silently ,the majorly we will be victimized. The fact is majority of time, we don't discuss the our parents due to unfriendliness , lack of proper communication, fear that our freedom may end of going places alone. 

Dutt saab... A man's untold emotions.

The movie Sanju did so well on box office and it got good critically acclamation , but behind this journey of life with so much name,game, controversies , drug addiction, there was one man who acted like a constant pillar of strength. The legacy of his values and ethics and his progressive mindset deserve to be remembered .So late Dutt Saab (Sunil dutt) an popular name in film industry ,has his own journey. Born in a simple middle class family in punjab who liked to live life on his own terms. After  completing his school studies , he started working as an R.J simultaneously completing his higher education too, to support his family financially.One day at his workplace, one man suggested him for modelling because of  his well built personality and after auditioning, he also got offers for acting this slowly and gradually he made a name in bollywood, also fall in love with timeless beauty late nargisji and they had 3kids from marriage. So let's discuss some of his untold emotions,  when Sanju ,his son expressed his aim of becoming actor, dutt saab's meaningful advice was ,my son"all this name,fame and opportunities you getting to. become an actor , never take it for granted because other people struggles hard to achieve so always respect this". It was the worst time for Dutt saab when nargisji was diagnosed with cancer  at last stage and sanju's addiction for drugs.he was fighting many inner battles , but dealt with it bravely .when in an interview whenever duty saab was to be asked about sanju's drug addiction he used to reply honestly and humbly that yes Sanju was addicted but it was due to his shock of nargisji's death but Sanju had fighted and overcame from this addiction through his efforts. There was a time when Sanju was unable to recover from drug addiction , his best friend explained that , Uncle you are a brave personality but please understand  Sanju is different, he has his own Passion and mindset , please understand that".On that day itself Dutt saab took an bold step ,ask his son to share a drink which was worth discussing because that step was acceptance of reality and explaination , that although his son has his own aim and passion he accept it  because he love him . There was also a moment when underworld used to force Sanju to have compulsory presence in their parties which Sanju was not happy naturally by their invitation but was forced too, one day duty saab confronted him that why he attend such parties if he don't like them, he advised them to tell it honestly even they provide threats .so this was a step of teaching his son that better to live peacefully with strength to tell Truth. There are many things more ,I wish you could read this letter but what the world needs to know that you foughted every battle without any complains and tried to understand your kids situation with whole acceptance and lifetime advices.you are a real hero and your values of strength and honesty will be immortal. This is my little tribute to you.  We love and respect you dutt saab.

Privacy matters.

One incident of my friend  which made me realized to discuss the most ignorant topic, her commute in local train,her fellow Lady passenger literally peeping in her phone.  when she was chatting on her phone,She confronted that lady but do we Indians generally give importance to privacy majorly, no.. It's not an uncommon thing that family members check each other phone specially of their teenage child when left unattended. Like almost spying on their cellular activities. It's not uncommon in our home to enter any family members in our  room without knocking, the psychology is that what is the need of privacy among our family members but it is. Shahrukh Khan in an interview described that he always knock the door when his wife is changing clothes even after being married for 30years, also knocks his kids room before entering because he feels it's their personal space and it's their right. So this are values and ethics which should be respected and this is our real manners and education.Also there are several case happening when people publicised their personal chats and private pictures after break-up. The person doing this will never understand the mental trauma which his or her ex _ partner goes. Totally disheartening and shocking for a person to believe , that with the one you spent your Best intimate moments is defaming you to prooved his innocence. So the message of my article is to highlight the importance of personal space . when personal space is neglected, the respect for the person also diminishes. So if there are any issue evoking in mind it's better to discuss frankly rather than any impulsive action or judgements. So personal space is our right ,if we expect honesty from our dear ones it requires right mindset to accept.

Breaking stereotypes.

As feminism is the latest discussion , stories about womens reaching the level of success after struggles etc , but my today story aims to discuss importance of being humanist than feminist.  This is a story about a manegi not only gained success but also help his partner to achieve her identity. H what attracted  nameme isto write this story is,  we always have mindset that higher education is always important to  have progressive thinking, but he prooved me wrong. Jagdish borana, a successful saloon owner in virar(mumbai).Born in a middle class rajasthani family at udaipur. Jagdish father a cook by profession in a well-known businessman in South mumbai. He and his whole family except his father used to stay in village located in interior of udaipur. Jagdish hardly passed ssc because of no interest in study. So after 8 std, he moved on to his Uncle house in virar, there he learned saloon course. So he set up an saloon start up near his residence , collecting some saving from his father and Uncle After completion of his course. Slowly and gradually, after certain struggles .His saloon started having a good name for his service and his good work ethics, thus he also brought his mother and sister to his residence of Uncle's house. So as Jagdish belong to a community where often , youngsters are engaged faster.so in his 19th year, he gone to saw a girl name hema who also belong to jagdish's nearby village. Hema a shy, beautiful in her sweet sixteenth. She completed just ssc .so with the family alliance and both's approval,they got engaged. During those times there were hardly any personal mobile, this they used to have conversations via letters and common telephone. Hema says letter were a reason to create an attachment and bond between 2people. Thus after 2years they married with great enthusiasm. Hema had to adjust herself in this new city's environment, initially a tough phase of her life. So after certain adjustments, Jagdish and his father decided to make hema skilled.  So hema was happy and her respect grew more for her husband. Thus after hema's approval, they enrolled her to a beautician classes nearby virar station, the location of her classes was 40minutes far from their residence .Initially  jagdish's mother wasn't much happy about her joining beautician course but Jagdish convinced his mother that homechores and her classes will be balanced . Jagdish decided to receive her everyday from her classes in evening, those 40 minutes of Walk together blossomed their romance well.😄  So after completion of 6 months course , Jagdish and his father gathered some saving and set up an ladies parlor that hema could operate.  The parlor business boomed slowly with her strong determination and her self confidence began rising. Presently she  says that she never dreamed of that one day she will have her own identity, she feel very lucky to have such an amazing partner who broke an stereotype.In this 12 years of saloon business, she also trained more than 50 girls under her supervision. They have 3 children ,2girls and one boy. Both the partner work hard to provide their children all facilities but also taught values and well manners. So this is actually real love, where main aim is mutual respect and mutual self identity Creation.I wish more people like Jagdish  who  break the patriarchal system  who believe in achieving and also help in achieving. We should also credit our man too even they deserve equal credit.

Honour killing. name or shame

The topic of honor killing is the crime,which has penetrated deep in our patriarchal society . Through the power of media, we can create more awareness and guide masses about the evil crime which not only kills victims but humanity too .there has been many cases about honor killing done by family due to their mindset of getting defame in our society. It's has occurred not only in rural areas but in Urban areas , where modernization has step in everyone's life.we use smartphone, high tech technology, but still our patriarchal mindset needs a change . After attainment of adult's age, we all have right to marry by our choice laid by our constitution, but actually it's still not applicable in everyone's life. Some think that killing the couple who loves or marry each other on their choice have no right to live, because their ego is hurt . After all how many people will be killed or tortured ,it's time to highlight this issue and create a solution.first of all , communication barrier between our youth and their parents have to be decreased, this can only happen with a progressive mindset . Parents can think logically, little friendliness and proper mindset will really create progress in their and their children's lives. marriage system should be considered according to their choice not by caste . It's our youth duty also to attain financial independence before marriage so that we are fully prepared for the responsibility. Stringent laws and helplines by government for the victims. After all to bring change and harmony. Change is essential.

Rain and it's memories.

We all love rainy season approximately, but enjoyment we have in childhood during Monsoon can't be forgettable. My memory in childhood during Monsoon was playing at terrace with my group of friends in rain without caring about our stain on clothes or getting ill. The most thing we used to love during heavy rains are the holidays of school we used to get. There were even times when loadshedding used to happened mostly but even those times we kids used to be unaffected and used to play in our society compound. Now when i see, urban's society compound  all kids doesn't get involved in playing games like hide and seek, kho kho. The best memories were playing bruceley bruceley with my neighborhood friends , me and my brother and when the frequent complaints increased our spanking by mum. Those people don't have inverter at home specifically, we middle class people who can't afford candle light dinner at fancy restaurants, get the chance to be at their home 😂😂😂. Being mumbaikar not to forget young couple becoming more cosier at places like marine drive, bandstand etc and our group of girls commenting on those couple 😂😂😂. Monsoon also blossom romance of not only teenagers but also of middle-aged and olds too, having a walk together hands in hands under one umbrella is also a part of romance which we ignore sometimes. Also not to forget bollywood buff like us have diehard imagination of romancing in rains , that Aashiqui 2 types 😂😂. So even if Monsoon creates hurdles for working people specially , problems of drainage and traveling but still Monsoon will be special. 

Escape....

This topic needs to have a little discussion because may be it doesn't have much awareness .when my cousin married a guy from her choice by escaping it not only shocked me but also led to have serious thinking in my mind. A girl who was a inspiration in our whole family for her successful career in pharmacy,  had to run away from her house is questionable. This is not a rare topic where people have to marry their choice by escaping. So let's discuss about it. So the very main reason behind this problem is the friendlier communication gap with our parents and also acceptance, caste and cultural gap too. We as a nation had reach to very progressing nation but when it comes for selection of life partner,elders consent is mandatory. I am not saying that it's wrong, that parents should not take interest in their child's life . Of course they will  they have their right but it becomes worst when they forcefully imposed their decision. The next thing also should be considered that we all have that desire to marry a person who makes our life better and loving but as it is not always a bed of roses, in the desire to live a beautiful life we often ignore the question that are we, as an individual prepared for this step because it not only requires love but also responsibility towards each other. Specially there are cases of girls getting married before completing their education which is very impractical. It's also important to think that , in the state of mere emotions are we completely prepared physically, mentally, financially. So the main solution for this double edged sword is that if we decide to marry someone, it should be completely our responsible decision ,so no need for blame game. Second is that if we get little more friendlier atmosphere in our family so that we balance personal and professional living without hiding from our elders. Just we need little support and acceptance because no one likes to be away from our family. It's time to change our mindset otherwise this communication barrier will increase day by day. Just little implementation on this matter  can better many lives. Why not Make marriage a happiness in which everyone is accepted exclusive of their caste, creed. Progress in life occurs when there is a perfect balance  

Masturbation.

So guys, today I am going to discuss about a topic with which we all deal but hesitant sometimes to discuss it. It's about masturbation, which is almost a part of hormones, but still we often feel uncomfortable to discuss about it.  So masturbation exactly means using different ways to satisfy asexually by using our hands, fingers, vibtator, sex toys etc. Its a myth that girl doesn't masturbate but the fact is, it's healthy for mind which relaxes the emotions  We jokingly called it as a selfstudy 😂. It becomes necessary also when, we watch bold sexy content and unable to complete our body's desire due to unsatisfied  sex life or if we are single etc. When i watched lust stories, i was amazed by the character of a working woman who is not completely satisfied by her husband in terms of passion, as every person, specifically woman wants her lovemaking to be completely full of passion, exploration, sometimes that seductive touch which enhance mood, body and which just provide her most pleasurable orgasms thus she uses vibtator to satisfy herself and it clearly gave an inspirational message that, there is no harm to complete our desires without cheating our partner. So i think we should break the communication barrier and should discuss it without hesitancy. So if it's unable to control some sexual desires, we can masturbate and even in scientific research, it shows that masturbation is good for mental health too. 

An unforgettable touch.

Hii guys, this is Mariyam shaikh and today, i want to share my personal story of that unforgettable bad touch. It took lots of time, to openly talk about it anx and all these years it disturbed me internally. It happened when i was in a fifth grade hardly 10 year, during the visit at a stationery shop, a guy in a age between 20 to 25 year, touched inappropriately on my back and hips. That act just shivered me and i was in total shock. As soon i gained normalcy, he was gone till. I didn't knew why i didn't confronted him and why i didn't share immediately with my parents. May i be i was too young to understand this devil act. Similar molestation even my friend gone through her own uncle, who molested her while she was asleep, he touched on her thighs and her legs. When she told about this to her mother, her mother misunderstood her, she told that it might be her misunderstanding. Even boys suffer too, my good guy friend suffered sexual abuse when he was 8 years old, from his female neighbor. So after hearing so many stories, i analaysed why it happened, it happens because of unsatisfied sexually desires, it also happens due to the availability of unethical content on internet example is makeout between mother and son, teacher and student, step sister and step brother thus it  can affect people's mentality too, the act make us believe to cross the border of relation is not wrong. The last reason is the communication gap between a kid and parent , due to this gap kids feel little uncomfortable to share about their personal life, so it's also parents duty to educate children about a good and bad touch. If this gap would decrease kids would get assurance that in their difficult times too , their family will undoubtedly understand them. 

A little tribute to our bhai.

As a writer and being a extreme Salman khan fan, it's a mere little tribute to him. So the man who is so successful actor, producer and of course career launcher of many. But besides this all his life has so much things to describe . From having controversial trials, affair with beautiful ladies to being one of the most charitable person. Actually when i personally thought about the real nature then he is the one who loves to help people who needs him but also intolerant about misbehavior with him or his dear ones. He trained Hrithik,, Arjun, Katrina and many more even during those time when his career was not very successful .This quality inspired all of us that this man doesn't feared competition and that's why, by God's grace he is so successful today. People don't know that the late mother of arjun Kapoor during her last stage of cancer, she told bhai to take care of arjun and anshula. Probably that's only can happened when there is a complete trust. But this successful person doesn't had complete story may be because of his possessiveness and impatient nature. Despite all this, he donates 90% of his income to charity and that's the reason of the respect and love he gained from public is innumerable. The reason he is not very communicative with every one is that he feels, that people misjudged his bold and honest opinions. His bodyguard Shera, said in  a interview that bhai has true blessings of people ,he will help with out any expectations. Although Salman believes that he committed some mistakes but he tried to correct in a good ways. A strong looking well built guy who has a  soft heart. So bhai loads of love to u. I hope you entertain us like this only and inspire us. God gives u all happiness in life  

By my choice, not by pressure.

Hey guys, this is the story of a woman who had chosen an different path, in the those times, which other women wouldn't had thought of. From being a single mother before wedlock or raising a child boldly to marrying at the age of 60. Her story admired me lot. So let's talk about her. Her name is Neena gupta an actress, an director, theatre artist but behind this all glamorous silver screen, she fought many taboos and battles by herself. Born in 1954,in a simple middle class family , after her graduation joined national school of drama in Delhi. After certain auditions and certain plays in theaters, she got opportunity to work in movie, even in those time, she didn't typical heroine role. But who knows that her personal life will affect her proffesional life too.  She was engaged with pandit jasraj son and before few days, he broke engagement without providing any reason, as a woman even i could feel her pain,the pain she would have gone through, because it's not easy to move on specially for a woman to move on speedily, because it breaks your heart when someone suddenly leaves you, after giving a hope for a better life. As she was going from this trauma, life selected an different path for her. Once in a free time, when she was watching a cricket match on T. V, she saw the captain of the team almost like crying after losing the match. That captain was Sir. Vivian Richards (ace cricketer) of his times, at that time she felt that, wow this man is so real and it attracted her lot. Who knew that this attraction has already a story written by God. So while shooting in Jaipur, she saw Vivian and his West Indian team in same hotel, she and her colleagues dining. They just exchange an glance. After some days they even boarded to same flight, so destiny diehardly trying to make it happen, an old woman exchanged her seat with Vivian because she was with little kid, and then Vivian and neena got seat nearby and thus the communication began and slowly after that boarding they came in contact, and both attracted towards each other ended up having an affair. But problem happened when neena became pregnant which was unplanned, her whole family and close friends were shocked. All adviced her to abort because our society doesn't accept child without marriage. But neena decided to give birth, Vivian was okay with her decision but he couldn't marry her, as he was already married with a carribian woman. In his culture, it's totally cool. She got many hatred messages from our society as she had child before marriage which is probably considered as impure decision. According to a woman psychology, a woman get connected to the baby in her womb, not only physically but emotionally too. Aborting and not aborting child have their own pros and cons . Neena says that sometimes she have regrets of taking these tough decisions because she says, this decision affected her daughter childhood vastly, she used to often get bully by her school friends due to unusual body, looks, skin tone and not getting a father's love. Although she raised her so well and today she is successful fashion designer but raising her single handly was not very simple. As she have to fulfill all responsibilities  but she says that her father supported during that time and she feels lucky. He used to take care of masaba when she used to be on shoot. All this steps were unusual and created an strong bitchy image by media .but best thing she is proud of her decisions too. She found love again before some years with Vivek Mehra. Even Vivian meets sometimes masaba thus after having so difficulties too, she prooved a woman once decided can go to any extent specially for her child and also created her way on her feet. She always felt that the difficulties she faced, masaba should never go through. Masaba says she is proud of her mother and her decisions, because despite several odd, she gave her life and made her strong, independent woman . 

When duty came first.

While watching bajirao mastani movie on TV, suddenly an thought evoke me, that world remembers the great love story of bajirao mastaani, but why kashibai sacrifice and her emotions doesn't caught anyone's attention. So let's discuss about this brave lady. Born in a very wealthy and loving family, Rao and Kashi had child marriage. So in such tender age they both didn't knew the exact values of marriage, but slowly and gradually , their bond became stronger by growing up together, playing, quarreling etc. Even Rao's family too treated her well with respect. Radhabai (Rao's mother) taught her every daughter in law's responsibility and wife's duties. Even Rao got trained well and became one of the most successful head minister of peshwa. All was going well, but soon kashi and whole rao family got shocked, when he announced that he married Mastani. Mastani a Muslim princess of Bundelkhand. It felt that some one stabbed kashi's heart . She never believed that her husband can have other woman in his life, even kashi ego was hurted and a woman never forgives the one, who breaks her ego. When Rao apologized Kashi, she replied " I demanded my life from you but instead you had snatched my self confidence and when Rao asked his punishment, she replied ' never enter in my room'. That's was a tough decision for a young woman . Question arosed in my mind that if Kashi would had been involved with other man, than would Rao forgived her??  But after so much too, she always taught her son to respect his father. The most impressive quality of her was when Bajirao and mastaani died, she not only adopted her son Shamsher bahadur, but also completed all administrative duties of peshwa. Her utmost principle was that emotions never come in way of duty.

Keeping him alive.

Hello guys, my name is shivangi joshi, today i am very excited to share my life story with you . I am a ordinary girl who had some unpredictable moments  in life. I come from a  decent working middle class background . In childhood i grew up ,with my maternal grand parents, due to financial difficulties of my parents , but my grandpa and grandmum were extreme caring and loving  So like every teenager my life had a routine, school, tuition etc. But after my hsc, i came back to stay with my parents. I never knew my life would change, i took admission in management studies in far away college from my home, everything was going normal, but one day i got an whatsapp message , i knew the guy name krishna sharma, a successful businessesman and very dear friend of my father. So he msgd me hii and i replied too, he was unaware of my usage  of this phone due to certain problems in my personal phone. So one day wen i told krishna dat, i am using this phone, he apologized , but i started gaining attraction towards him. He was 4 years elder than me, not much educated, humble and successful businessesman. So gradually our chatting increased, even he had developed feelings for me. So finally he proposed me, i was shocked but yes i wanted this moment to happen  So we started dating , meeting frequently. But one day, my father saw anf and that day there were lots of scolding towards me. As every parents they were worried  that i don't take a wrong step. But after so much drama, we continued dating. We were different totally in many things but still our bond was strong. So like this, my college vacation started and for s new startup , he gone outstation. My close friend riya  insisted that, i should meet him before his going but i couldn't due to restrictions of my family. Who knew, i won't be able to see him ever, after some days i got informed from his father, that he met an car accident and died, i was shocked and my heart was not accepting this fatal news, that day i realized  how it feels, when your most loveable person will be never even seen again. My family supported me in ti tough situation, but this news got many health problems like depression ,migration etc. So when riya knew, she hugged me and said,  " look dear, i can understand your pain but you know u can still keep him alive by fulfilling his dream, he always wanted you to be successfully educated working girl, so complete his dream, its your duty now, to make his soul rest in peace". Riya was my life saver, because she gave me the reason of life. So slowly, i started attending college and focused on my academics with that only one goal. During all this, i used to badly miss radhe and see his photo and used to cry. So i completed my graduation in management in human resource with good grades during all this my family and riya were very supportive. So after my convocation, i found a good job with decent salary package  that day i realized i completed his dream, i thought if he would be alive, he would have been most happy with my success in academics and career. Slowly and gradually my working life impreoved with some ups and downs. Suddenly after some days, while sitting alone at my house, that krishna used to help some charitable trust by donating money, books  etc to poor kids. So next day after enquiry of that N. G. O. I visited there and found the serious need of donation there. As many kids actually wanted to be something in life and i felt so blessed that my all needs were smoothly were completed by my parents  So after some visits, i asked my office colleagues and some friends for help and they agreed to donate little amount of their income . So after one year due to steady donations, this N. G. O, gave a good changes in these needy kids life and we all are happy. 

My first time.

When we celebrate each and every occasion, why should i  not share my first time, afterall its my unforgettable experience. so before you guys gauge on some judgements, i want to share about my first period and some thoughts about it. So my first time was, when I was 12 year old, before this happening in my life, many friends had experienced and they used to discuss but I never understood it, so the day when i had period, there was a slight leakage of blood, by seeing it i got frightened and immediately asked my mother about this, she finally made me understood that you have periods and  she gave me a cloth to save from the further leakage, even told me that now you can't enter in kitchen, i was confused still.As soon my female neighbor learnt about this, they say don't touch us for 3 days, so this all are our jain traditions of sitting in corner, no touching anyone etc. So changing pads in school time was little tough. I even remembered wearing dark clothes to avoid blood stains anf using cloth for stopping leakage used to increase more irritation, bad smell. We girls always had fear about, that if blood stains appeared on our clothes which can create embarrassment, I can't  understand still that it's a first step of  entering from girlhood to womanhood, why we are treated as untouchable. So finally the message, i want to share is why periods are not discussed openly with childrens above 10 years. The main problem is, this will be a taboo until we woman not personally feel its a impure happening. It's our duty to create awareness even among in boys, because during our school time, i observed many boys used to make fun of sanitary napkin, which needs to be stopped and it will stop when our mothers and teachers will take the responsibility of educating about this evn to their sons or boy's students. 

Sex education.

In our current generation, when people are discussing almost every topic boldly, it's important to discuss sex education too. As sex is considered a taboo in our Indian society, where it's considered perfect only after marriage, so scientifically its wrong, sex has nothing to do with marriage. With increasing content on web and movies, youngster's often have many curiosity which they feel uncomfortable to ask their parents about what actually sex is.?? Either teenagers Google or discus with their friends, who are almost have same age, even they are unexperienced. Government of India has taken several measures educating teenagers regarding sex by having topic in textbook and educational advertisements etc. So  to all teenagers, the content  and  virtual act ,  we get in web is correct but you also must know that it's good to have active sex but appropriate age and correct precautions like condom should never be forgotten. Don't feel shy to purchase condomn as it can save you and your partner from unwanted pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases etc. Even parents duty is to discuss or to educate openly about puberty and sex, because if you won't guide them, who will. Only one advice to parents of youngster's that, don't feared your child to be sexually active but instead make them realize, that if their inner voice trust their partner cent percent,than ok. But if not, it could be threat to their personal life. 

21st century's men perceptions.

           So there is a lot of talk about gender equality and feminism. So to explore reality, even a man's perception should be listened. After all we are humans, who have sensitivity, emotions. So the very common thing, probably is the payment of bill, why only man mostly pays, so if both are earning, why not 50_50. When it comes to marriage perspective, why always only a man's income is analyzed. If both want to stay together in life, why can't they share responsibility of finance too equally. Due to some rapists and stalkers, its totally unfair to treat every man in suspicion. Even men don't have problem, if a lady take a first step to sexuality. Even if there is a sexual relationship among partners, even a man's desire of having or not should be prioritized, why man are not asked, they want to get physical or not. All they need a loving shoulder on whom they can share all our sorrows  and joy. They equally love surprises, emotional moments/ notes. Look man are ready to help their friend, no matter how tough it is on them but all we need is little

Motivation that, i am there in all your good and bad times. All they  need is little love and acceptance of their originality. 

Not a bed of roses.

whatsappHii, my name is veena shah, age 34, married with two kids. Today I wanna share ny unapologetic story with you guys. Born in a conservative gujrati family with hardly any formal education and independence. My story was very common like every housewife of India. But slowly my life started changing, my romantic, caring  husband started ignoring me physically, mentally, sexually. My life became hell more when i got to know about his extra martial affair. I confronted him, instead he gave me two option. Either to accept his affair or divorce. I just felt my life ended, completely depressed i was, just thought how me and my kids would survived, if i divorced him  thus i chose to live in a unhappy marriage. But after 4 years my life got a different phase, i observed a  young handsome guy age 22,.   younger than me by 11 years . I got attracted with his good personality. Then after gathering his information from my friend. I requested him on f. B, he accepted too.   Gradually our chatting increased,we started having  frequent sex chats. Thus by his good response,I confessed my sexual interest in him.so one fine day we finally decided to have sex, when I was alone at my home,  and we had sex. I can never forget that moment. The way we made love was terrific. After so many years i was sexually active and  day by day we got more and more physically intimated, our sexual  continued till some months. It made me felt heaven on earth , so all was going great. But problem occurred even when he started ignoring my texts, call, because he started dating his long time friend. I literally became desperate for him.. Frankly speaking,i was so jealous but my heart gave them blessings any this ended. But one thing was that i may cheated my husband but i am not apologetic, because if  he can find love outside why can't i. My character may be questioned but being a good wife, mother, i am proud i didn't killed the woman in me. Although i m in a unhappy marriage. One message for all the girls and women, i couldn't remove myself from unhappy marriage, but if u can. Please do, because marriage will not always be bed of roses. 

Mental health.

               Mental health.                                As people are getting aware more and more nowadays about health, its also important to take care and maintain mental health. The problem is that still there are incidents people feeling shy or embarrassed about revealing their inner problems openly. So first of all, we need to know that, if we treat  other disease seriously and try our best to cure it, then why not about mental illness,afterall even brain is the part of body. Even people suffering should not feel embarrassed or should think as if  they are psycho. Much appreciation to Deepika padukone and Shaheen bhat, who opened their struggles of depression, their problems being not happy internally. Even Deepika padukone initiated campaigns and a helping hand for patients. So please if you have any difficulties physically, mentally take an help of family, friends or a professional help like counsellors. It will help you a better satisfied life. For families and friends one free suggestions is please help, motivate them, all they need is little love and your support. 

Acceptance.

A lot is debated about youth's perception but their real need is acceptance. Acceptance in terms of making own choices for career, partner, religious beliefs, sexuality. In short we need a change in stereotypes beliefs. Today's youth doesn't likes that chalta hai attitude, if we feel something is wrong, we will win it. It sadden us when we youth are expected only for party, alcohol, drugs, enjoyment etc. Look at ms. Dhoni, kohli, rajkumar rao, swapnil paatni, Sandeep Maheshwari etc who has broken all odds. We had reach to 4g but still we need alteration in our thinking. All we need is motivation from our family, and it can enhance our goals more better,  why there is always need for rebel. But slowly, time is changing, families are accepting their childrens originality, partner preferences, career choice, in short we need is a motivation to fight all odds and complete our goals. In fact we are more happy to take risks for our inner satisfaction. So that we feel responsible for our own decisions, intuition etc. 

Terrorism and a struggle to find peace.

Terrorism is a a threat with which whole world is juggling. Day by day it is increasing posing a real threat to security and humanity. The recent phulwama attack of those heroes who were killed for impure intentions. We can't imagine the pain of the families who loose their innocent dear ones. Salute to them who sacrifice their lives and also to their families, who selflessly send their love ones to secure our sleep. The real problem is more and more youth falling prey to these terror leaders, because of this kid's young age, poverty etc and how they trained so young kids to be terrorists by saying that you has been selected for this pure work. But later this kids realized that how they are trapped badly and their families silently cry for help. These terror leaders lured kids by saying that even if u die by killing people, you soul will get heaven. By brainwashing them the real message of quoran " killing innocents is biggest crime and will be never forgiven by Allah". The solution can be is not to see every Muslim suspiciously. Religion discrimination hurts their sentiments daily. Not to forget inspector Mr. Khan who encountered Manya surve and many who has prooved, that they have equal love for their country. Recent investment of many Muslim in rally for killing soldiers increased sense of brotherhood and harmony.