Yes it actually happened( it's time for a twist.) Part 5

No doubt my answer was yes for the proposal of rohan, but the question of shifting abroad leaving my single parent mother. Rohan initially told me to shift India with his family , as I was not ready to settle at Canada permanently. His family and wasn't aware of our relationship. His aim was to tell his mother, sister and elders as he completes his age of 25th . Thus time was flying faster than usual for us. As soon he completed 25th years of age, his mother announced to his maternal uncle and aunt ,to find a girl for marriage purpose from gujrati community. When Rohan knew about this, he confessed that he loves me and had proposed me for marriage. Mummy (Rohan's mother) was shocked when she heard and more shocked when she knew that I am South Indian. Usually our North Indians have certain mentality about South Indians regarding their looks, culture,  little conservative nature etc .So Rohan's mother denied ours relationship because of caste issue and I understand why she must have denied because like amma, even she lost Rohan's father at a very early age. She struggled and work harder to survive in Canada although her maternal side was very support,  but I am proud to say, that my mother in law is a self dependent person. Mumy too single handedly fulfilled responsibility of a mother and father, also balanced work and family very well. I actually respect that lot. So to convince his mother, Rohan called his maternal aunt who lives in mumbai, as he is very close to her, he told about our seriousness and convinced her to make mummy understand . When his aunt called mummy (Rohan's mother) to convince her, mummy agreed on one term, she told her maternal aunt to meet me and my family once. So after four days ,on Sunday his aunt came to meet us in our house. As our roots are from south, but residing in mumbai for such a longer time, we were gelled well with north Indians too. Actually his aunt was relieved that , what she mentally thought about us, we weren't that typical South Indian people, she liked all of us well. But the best thing about his aunt we loved was her honest nature, because when amma told his aunt that, "may be Rohan will try to settle in India." Aunt directly told truth that ,"sorry my dear but Rohan won't ever shift to India, because he and his family struggled lot to live a well settled life in India ". Me and amma was shocked for some time, I was very sad that time. The next day, I had a very bad call with Rohan, as I thought he cheated me by telling that he would shift to India. Yes Rohan listened everything patiently, he said yes I told you, I would shift to India, but it's very tough to leave such a job security and well settled life in Canada. I directly told him on phone, that I am not interested in carrying our relation ahead,as I don't want to shift Canada leaving my family. Rohan replied ,"I understand your emotions nisha, I just wanna say is no decision will be forced upon on you, if you are happy breaking up with me, okay but I seriously loved you very much and would respect your emotions are decision , it would break my feelings too, but if you are happy, it would be fine for me, Good luck for everything, cyaa."

Yes it actually happened, a meeting for a new beginning part 4.😍

So finally day came, when Rohan came to meet me and my family from canada to India. It was a lovely feeling when someone comes to meet you specially from such a long distance. It was like my life was about to change from seeing him onscreen to live . Yes that took lots of patience for both of us.  As I was always a person, who never kept much attention on looks but that day, I asked neha chechi ," Am I  looking presentable or not?". She was like , "ohhhhh,  somebody is taking care of her looks more now".😅 My response was a blushing smile 😂😂. So finally when the bell rang, my heart began to beat more faster. Yes finally we met, there were typical love songs were running in my mind 😂😂. The excitement of meeting was showing straightly in my eyes and smile. As soon as, entering at our house, he touched feet of amma. Looking at that act, we were really touched by his manners of respecting elders. He said Hello to me and neha. Neha was literally in mode of teasing us by giving me some signs of eyes 😂😂😂😂.  Thus we made him feel comfortable on sofa, me and sat Neha on opposite chairs. So the initial talks was how's everyone in family, work life etc,  As neha being his bestie, knew how much Rohan loves South Indian food. After some talks, Rohan proposed me in front of amma and neha. That moment was the loveliest ❤️❤️.

Yes it actually happened 😍 (introduction of amma) part 4

So when finally my photo was sent by neha,I was totally mad on her but now what's done is done. Now this online friendship ,ours chatting became a part of life, Yes we were actually attached to each other, communication became very essential for us. So that day finally after 2years of chatting,  Rohan finally asked me, if I also actually feel the same thing, which he felt. 😍😍 Yes definitely loved him lot But also it's true that ,Yes I was hesitant, little feared, it was all because of some basic mentality, about n.r.i . that may be he won't be interested in any kind of Serious relationship.  This is little strange in our indian society to share about a guy's proposal but yes as we both sisters were closed with my mother, let me introduce you guys with my mother. Her name is sudha balan, a person without whom our life wouldn't be such happening. Initially in our childhood days, my mom (amma) was little strict, as compared to our dad, late.(Balakrishnan Balan) But after  early death of ours father due to health problems, amma  single handedly  fulfilled responsibility and love of both mother and father. Amma came from a well settled family and even at my father's house,we led an comfortable life . Acchan (my father) wish was too see his family members to lead a comfortable  life, but due to sudden illness of my late father,  responsibility of running our household, my and neha's education , etc came on Amma's shoulders. We are proud to say that Yes amma raised us hardworking ly as a teacher . Our relatives offered us financial help but we refused and it was best decision of our life. Even being born in a very orthodox family, we are proud amma gave us all freedom to explore many things but yes there were certain limits and today being a parent, I understand . So we were chatting regularly, amma knew well. Finally I told her about proposal of Rohan, amma asked "are you guys serious for each other. My reply was," Yes, But problem is I don't want to go abroad, leaving u amma". This was an emotional moment for us, I holded her hands.❤️ Her eyes became little teary because, no mother wants to send her daughter,so far aspecially at a place where we never visited, so our decisions were going on and off. 

Yes it actually happened. 😍part 3

Now the time comes as tit for tat, neha shared my email id to rohan without my permission. The next fine day , I saw an new email , when I checked that I'd it was of Rohan's. I got mixed feelings , even today it reminds me those goosebumps, and the process of chatting started. The initial chatting includes knowing about each other college life, studies, friends , career goals etc. To be Frank, we didn't opened up every topic with each other, the beauty of our friendship was getting to know each other slowly and steadily. There was a line of control in our chatting initially. Gradually we continued chatting, I actually realised , I am getting attached to Rohan and even he realised because of residing in different countries. I was in india and he was in Canada so we maintained patience for each other messages. This whole chatting story was well known both by my sister and my mother (amma) too. I am actually blessed to have a family which understood my emotions, But also guiding me time to time when needed.  They all noticed slight changes in me , which was coming naturally . The best thing about our growing friendship of me and Rohan was he is a very good listener, who patiently listens first and level of maturity to understand things.  So yes we were becoming good friends , one day he asked me to send my photo. I initially denied it, due to some hesitance as I felt , he have feelings for me. But I never interested in long distance relationship.  I still appreciate that when I denied sending my photo, he didn't forced and told me , "it's okay nisha, send me whenever you feel like, no hurry".I was actually impressed internally for genuineness of Rohan. So everything was going smooth our studies were over, he found an job too as an solar engineer, after some months, even I found job in an accountancy firm. Our chatting was on-going well, even neha chechi and Rohan used to chat , so Rohan asked to send my photo on his I'd ,if I don't have problem. Neha directly sent my photo without my permission, when she confessed, I freaked out. Ohh god, it sounds so funny right now. 😂😂😂 Neha di actually became our love guru , the funniest part was neha sent my not so Good looking photo😂😂, but Stop Rohan liked it and he saved it in his desktop. 

Yes It actually happened . part (2)

So by reading this introduction part, its very easy to guess , It's a love story obviously and funnily our bollywood crazy friends describe it as a similar to two states 😅😅, but it's not only about 2 states combo but about 2countries, one love ❤️.  Being second child to my parents,Yes I was More naughty , humorous, extrovert and ofcourse tomboyish person as compared to my elder sister Neha balan , let me share something about my elder sister Neha, I call her chechi, which means elder sister in Malayalam. She is also our setting person who also had  lots of contribution in setting me and Rohan 😅😂. She is also happily married with her husband in mumbai. I am blessed to have a sister like her who is not mere a sibling but an close friend and my partner in crime 😂😂. She is kareena kapoor of our house due to her good looks😅.  So let's go to those memories where something special is about to happen.  That was one fine morning when neha chechi was busy in her presentation for college assignments , for some work she rushed to collect some documents at her friend's place . Laptop was just left as it is, I was reading at same sofa , what I observed was a sudden pop up of an email. It was an email of Rohan on her I'd.  Let me mention, neha and Rohan are school time bestfriends.  Due  to early death of his father too, he and his family shifted to Canada with some support from Rohan's maternal uncle and aunt  for college studies and career.  As Rohan was still very close to his friends,he used to be in regular touch through email chats.    An sudden prank came in my mind, to chat with Rohan on neha's behalf on her I'd. So I started talking silly , poor Rohan was awestruck that what suddenly happened to Neha😂😂 , but he didn't told anything on that time. In some minutes, finally Neha came home and noticed me , chatting with her I'd. She became totally mad on me. She was like why u chatted silly on my behalf, so when she apologized Rohan , he actually liked my silly prank . Neha was little embarassed but instead Rohan told I really like Nisha's humorous nature, can i get her id . I was shocked because i didn't had any other intention . To be frank Yes i  was hesitant to start conversations with him. My only thoughts stressed me is , what this guy will think about me .

Yes It actually happened.😍 , Part (1)

Today while seeing , old photo album which was loaded with memories of a phase in life which will be always memorable and yes y which will never fails to bring smile on my face. Yes this are photos of 10 years back where Life was so different , it included fun, friends, college life, exams etc ,but never expected , that there is something unexpected to come. I always thanks myself internally  for maintaining this albums which not only contains photographs but memories.  So guys I am very happy to introduce you people about that unexpected journey which actually happened.  Let me introduce myself , my name is Nisha balan , an N .r.i , an accountant by profession,  a mother of a lovely four year old daughter siya❤️,  happily settled in Canada,  and not to forget the person without whom this journey would be incomplete totally. His name is Rohan Mehta my husband❤️, an engineer by profession. Yes our surnames sounds lot opposite and It's true that we hail from inter caste community, a combination of north and south 😅. 

Rajasthan community's pride.

As Rajasthan is not famous mere for travel and tourism, but also famous for its love for our traditions and passion for business. Let's discuss about the person who changed the scenario of our community's patriarchal mindset. Her name is Smt.Geeta Bharat Jain, famous and successful for defeating stronger opponents in Mira _bhayander area. Her development work in her field of politics is well-known by citizens but very few know about her initial days. Born in a middle class family in Mumbai. she was eldest among 3 siblings. Her father was a retailer of clothes in jogeshwari and mother a homemaker. Since childhood, geetaji had  a dream of  successful career and wanted to become self independent. After her secondary education, she used to teach underprivileged kids for free during her free time at slum area near her home. To support her education, she took various part time job, because was so determined about her career .  She successfully completed medical laboratory technology course and also started working in this field. So after her marriage with Shri.Bharat Jain, a real estate developer (son of a successful ex politician) , Helping father in law in election work, even she developed interest in politics, so with guidance and motivation of her husband and in-laws family, she began her career in politics, with the agenda of help and development. The intention to write this article on geetaji is , that if geetaji's family can support her ,to achieve her goal why can't we motivate our daughters and daughter in laws. After all it's time to bring an change in our community's rules and restrictions. If we can wear modern clothes, adapt modern technology, why not modern mindset?  Strength, hardwork and right support from our family can change lives.